You're caught in a pattern of angry responses.
Is anger an impulsive response you struggle to control?
Anger can show up expectedly and unexpectedly in a lot of different ways and places.
Maybe you catch yourself:
thinking or speaking critically
raising your voice or yelling
clenching your jaw or hands
slamming doors or acting aggressively
shutting down or withdrawing from others
Anger also shows itself in the body as heat, racing heart, trembling, pacing, or spasms. You might get headaches, hives, muscle tightness, or gut problems.
Sometimes you feel annoyed, tense, frustrated, overwhelmed, or reactive.
We often get stuck expressing anger even when it's not how we want to respond.
And then you might get mad at yourself for being angry.
Anger is a human emotion that is neither good nor bad.
Anger is an emotion that prepares your body to act.
When your brain perceives threat or injustice, your nervous system responds to protect you or others.
Sometimes you automatically react from a place of fight, flight, or freeze.
Everyone interprets threat differently based on their life's experiences, their current state, and the setting.
You can perceive danger in many different situations:
being ignored or not listened to
feeling backed into a corner
getting cut off or losing control
being confronted by someone
losing your job or loved one
Beneath anger there are often hidden feelings of fear or sadness.
Sometimes you act on anger in a state of dysregulation or disconnection and cause harm at home, school, or work.
A therapist can help you understand your anger and what's underneath it.
Anger management counselling can help regulate your anger and use it for good.
Anger is a powerful motivator that can fuel positive change and action.
When you learn to regulate your emotions, including anger, the energy it activates can be managed and directed where you want it to go.
Your anger tells you what is important to you.
You can use anger to help you speak up, correct injustice, meet your needs, pursue your goals, and seek healthy connections.
It is possible to stay present in moments of stress and remain in control to express yourself with dignity.
What if you could...
A good therapist helps you work with your anger, not get rid of it.
In order to change your anger, you must first learn to accept it.
Therapy gives you a space to explore your thoughts, emotions, and reactions without judgment or shame.
Going to counseling for anger can help you:
normalize your anger
acknowledge your experiences
understand your emotions
practice new skills
create healthier patterns
When you manage your anger, you can also improve your self-esteem, relationships, job performance, and physical health.
At Therapy Alberta, we know it can be hard to talk about anger and it's consequences.
You can expect a counsellor to be sensitive to the issues you are facing.
You can share as little or as much as you want in therapy. We want to help you in the way that works best for you.
Our therapists prioritize creating a supportive therapeutic space with you.
You can build a relationship with a trauma-informed therapist who sees the good in you. We offer whole person care: you're human first and what you're struggling with doesn't define you.
Some approaches to anger management counselling include:
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT)
We offer exclusively online counselling so you can connect to a therapist anywhere in Calgary and across Alberta.
The best therapist to meet your unique needs might live in a different area.
We love online therapy because it's convenient, private and flexible.
You'll love online therapy if you are:
nervous about going to counselling
comfortable in your own space
concerned about your privacy
okay skipping the drive and waiting room
We build great relationships online and sometimes the distance makes it a little easier to explore and process anger and emotions.
Our therapists offer evening and weekend appointments to fit your lifestyle.
What is anger?
Anger is a common human emotion that prepares the body to act - to speak, assert, move, correct injustice, or sometimes protect - to fight, flee, freeze, or defend from danger. Anger is neither good nor bad, it is just an emotion that informs us what our body wants or needs.
How does anger affect the body?
You can notice signs of anger in the body- tensing, clenching, feeling hot, skin redness, sweating racing heart, shaking, or sudden movements. Anger also affects the body in other ways - with increased levels of stress hormones and tension, you might notice ongoing fatigue, headaches, hives, digestive problems, slow to heal injuries, and jaw, neck, back or shoulder pain.
What is a trauma-informed therapist?
Trauma-informed therapists understand the impact of negative experiences on a person’s body and mind. They recognize your emotions, thoughts, and behaviors are the ways you have learned to cope with stress and trauma. They know how to facilitate recovery, and practice in a way that reduces the likelihood of causing further harm. Trauma-informed therapists provide safety and choice at every step of the process and prioritize building a secure therapeutic relationship - the basis for healing.
What is whole person care?
We see your whole person – mind, body, emotion and identities. How you respond now makes sense when you consider the whole picture, including your past and present relationships. No one develops alone without the influence of other people, culture, society, and history, so of course we need help learning to grow in new ways. That's why we're here for you.
How much does anger management counselling cost?
Our therapy sessions with a psychologist or social worker are $200 per 50-minute session. We offer direct billing for most insurance companies, or a receipt to claim or re-imbursement or as a medical expense on your taxes. Sliding scale fees are available.