Trauma occurs when one's inner capacity to cope is overwhelmed. The human brain is wired for connection, safety, and love. When early or late experiences of abuse, neglect, injury, or assault impair or interfere with these functions, the brain must defend itself in order to survive and move on. Though amazingly adaptive at the time, the body can continue to hold on to and live based on these defenses. We can help you make sense of your reactions, regulate, release trauma, and create new healthy experiences.
Everyone dissociates on some level. Maybe you daydream, zone out, feel numb or disconnected, don't remember the drive to work, or act out of character. Dissociation is the split between body and mind that can affect time, perception, and identity. Sometimes it happens to such a degree that it interferes with home, school, work, or relationships. If this sounds familiar, we can explain what your brain is doing and why, help you regulate, reconnect your body and mind, then integrate your inner experience.
Change, loss, death, and dying bring up a lot of difficult emotions, thoughts, and sensations that sometimes need to be shared in a safe, compassionate space where there is no judgment or pressure to let go or move on. We can help you better understand your experience of grief and find ways of mourning that help you heal. We are here to listen and honor your story; we will act as companions on your grief journey as you create a new normal.
Anxiety & Stress
When the body and mind have learned a calm internal state is not safe, it remains in a state of alert, alarm, fear, or terror to meet it's needs. Anxiety is a coping style that has helped you survive and get you to where you are today, but might no longer be helpful or necessary. We can help you better understand your experience, regulate, calm, and adopt new ways of coping with stress.
Understanding the relationship between attachment and maladaptive coping mechanisms is imperative to helping those struggling with substance use or addictive behaviors. When the needs of the body and mind are not met through relational safety and attachment, the brain seeks similar rewards, often found in substances or other pleasurable behaviors. This way of coping helps numb the underlying pain. We can help you understand your patterns, find ways to regulate and meet your needs in healthy ways, build supportive relationships, and begin to heal the wounds beneath.